Five tips to have a healthy relationship

   Are you tired of searching for the right person, or you are among those still complaining of having several relationship and yet no one seems to have worked, so you felt like true love doesn't exist.

Stay with me, as I share with you, five essential tips to have a blissful relationship.

Love is a beautiful experience when you eventually get to meet the right person. like I shared before in one of my post, it is the greatest feeling shared among the human race, so it is an error if one cannot find his/her missing rib.

After a proper research personally carried out by me, on the results of several broken relationship, I was able to deduce some essential techniques to keep a lasting relationship with your heartthrob.

1. The chase.
   For the benefit of those who don't understand my title. The chasing period in a relationship is the length of time in which a guy is hunting for a girl or vice versa.

It is the best moment in a relationship as most times a guy is ready to do all he can just to get the lady he is crushing on.

During this period the guy chasing at the lady can call between intervals in a day like taking three square meal or even more than.

He can talk endlessly just make sure he pleases the lady, at this moment texts messages, gifts and going out on a date is more regular just to get his crush to say yes.

This moment is the deception period as both parties pretends to achieve their aim.

Now at this point, if you definitely don't want to get into the wrong hands,so you need no pretense,you just have to be yourself and try not to be swept away by the lots of gifts and attention you are getting during this short period.

instead take this time to under study your soon to be partner. Get to know him better, try to meet his friends, and get to know the resulting issues in his past relationships.

 As this may be the better opportunity for you to scrutinize him while you are in control and you can either say yes or no.

One important thing to note here also, try not to say yes out of pity because you will definitely going to suffer it later.

2.the real game

Funny title right, but it's the only thing that knock my head when writing this article.

I call it the real game because just moment after saying yes, gradually every thing begins to die down, from less calling and texting to less hanging out. you are now like a trophy he has won and kept on his shelf after all the struggling and competitive moments.

But not to worry it's normal. If you had study him very well before saying yes, you won't have problems at all in this stage.

Now you just have to start working on your relationship.

3.Building the trust in your relationship.

There's no relationship in this world that works on auto pilot,  I guess you understand what I mean. You must have to work things out.

So after answering the big question with a yes from your crush,  the next thing to do is to start building the trust between each other because no relationship survives without this.

Learn to talk to each other about everything no matter how discomforting it is. Starting from the places you go each day, at least that will clear the suspicion incase someone else tells your partner they saw you some where.

In this period try to do away with white Lies as both of you is yet to know each better.

 Try to introduce your partner to your friends especially the ones called bestie both male and female, so that if you guys are not comfortable with any of them then they can be an adjustment and have to iron things out.
If trust is successfully buil, then you both will go a long way.


4. Attention

Hmm,  my favorite. What you love you shower with attention.
This is a very salient ingredient in a relationship that keeps it all spice up. It is important to note once you stop giving each other attention the relationship gets boring,

attention includes  getting to notice what is troubling your partner even when he/she didn't spell it out to you.

 Telling her she looks beautiful  after making a new hairstyle or wore a beautiful dress, ofcos she did all that for you to notice her,  so all you have to do is to make sure you appreciate the tiniest things about each other, it shows that you care.

Make sure you give each other pet names, create out time to go outing together especially the cinemas to see movies.and sometimes clubbing.

As I'm about wrapping up, let me leave you with the last but not the least on this list.

5. Don't be too overbearing on your partner

There's no relationship without giving or sharing, this includes affection, your comfort, time and money. Yes that is true but you don't have to make it, seems like it is a task, that your partner must meet.

Most especially asking your partner for money regularly, especially for little things you can do yourself, it makes you loose respect.

Don't be overbearing on your partner especially for ladies who always carry their family problems to their partner in order to get monetary assistance.

Men get irritated sometimes by this act even though they won't tell you, it makes them to look less at your family and I know you don't want to marry a man who wouldn't have respect for your family.

 And something estra to add here before I go, a good sex seals it all, it keeps your partner coming back for more.

At this juncture let me drop my pen to hear from you, our readers.

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